Dear Single Ladies

All too often do I run into young girls with aspiring dreams of finding their Prince Charming and riding off into the sunset to live "Happily ever after". And by "Happily Ever After", I mean to get MARRIED in 2-3 moths time. not too many think about the after math. And Quite frankly I don't think they put too much thought into the process of getting married.

And I'm not talking about the ones who have married their High School Sweetheart and are happily married after 50 years. They're are great! And they've found themselves a unicorn! but if you find yourself single and moping about because you aren't living the dream, I want to remind you about the good things in life.

Granted, I am in no way an expert on love or relationships. But I do find it concerning when the response to a woman wanting to go to school for an education and to better herself , is an appalled look or gasp or "seriously?!" . And to preface my long rant on my stance on this... I will repeat : I am no love expert. I have never been in a serious relationship ( own free will and choice) and have never really considered that an option in my life until fairly recently. And the more I date the more gratitude I feel towards my decisions. Sure, boys are great. But I feel like there's a TON of crap out there. And sadly, the general mentality that I've been seeing, is that it's easier to be with crap than to wait it out . And it is to those girls whom this post is addressed.

SO ATTENTION LADIES!!!

 If your boyfriend does ANY of they following:

- calls you fat  makes ANY comment suggesting that you are not enough as you are or that you would be better if_____ or IF you were to change this about you, then he would commit

-is cheating on you ( I wish this was common knowledge) 

- doesn't want to commit to you but demands your financial/physical/emotional commitment

-  makes you feel bad about yourself.

- doesn't make an effort to talk with you. let alone be with you.

-  is RUDE AND DISRESPECTFUL

DUMP HIS SORRY BEHIND.
like yesterday. ( I have to censor in case ya'll are young)

so here are a few things to remember:

KNOW YOURSELF

Know yourself

 GIIIRRRLLLL know that you do NOT absolutely NEED a man to exist happily on this earth. Crazy, I know.  You've lived a great portion of your life without a romantic relationship. You lived. And it was great. Take the time to KNOW what you have so you can feel comfortable being alone. It's not a sin to take time to know yourself better.

Relationships require two people. And if you don't even know who that person is, half of that relationship is super unstable. Get comfortable. Get confident. And feel good about who you are. I mean... don't be over confident or prideful, but know your standards and what you want . It makes decisions SO much easier to make down the road.

So set goals. make plans. Achieve those plans. Set boundaries and standards. You have worth. You don't need to be chasing all the time.

Say you're on your own path of life. And so is He. There are  going to be moments where your paths don't cross and the only thing that is going to make this into a relationship is when ,and only when, BOTH of you makes the effort to make a bridge.
     I say both because  relationships are mutual. And if one of you is running away, the bridge won't lead you to anyone... and that's just sad...

And truth be told , if someone wants to be a part of your life, they will make an effort to be there.

So know what you deserve. And you can't know that unless you know yourself. So take some time to enjoy being single. There's being single by choice and being single by default. In either case, you can make the most of the situation. Take it from me, you will attract a far greater person than you would have ever imagined by taking the time to better yourself. Better you, better partner. just sayin'.

*drops mic*

peace and blessins' ,
Gigi

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